Hi, folks belonging to the elderly Groups 5 & 6, you are my target group this week, especially those in their late 50’s. In case you are new on this blog please go back a few steps to find and read the post titled SPECIFIC AGE GROUPS THAT I SHALL BLOG ABOUT. Then you will know your group; age group, not blood group.
Some of you may already have stopped doing negative things or never practiced them at all which is quite commendable, others too are still addicted and need to be reminded to stop doing them.
I welcome all of you, young and old people, old visitors, new visitors.
Today’s post has been written out of an incident I witnessed recently at a public gathering.
I wonder how some people, with all their knowledge and maturity, still behave the way teenagers will do.
It was at a funeral in a town in the Eastern region of Ghana. The dead person was not a member of any religious group or society and so there was no sermon at the funeral. The Master of Ceremonies [MC] asked the mourners if any among them touched by the Holy Spirit, could share the word of God with all.
After about ten seconds one young man stood up and shouted ‘’praise the Lord’’ and got an overwhelming response ‘’hallelujah’’. He then prayed and began to preach about repentance from evil. In the course of preaching he mentioned things the Lord abhors including drunkenness.
An elderly man who seemed to be in his mid-50’s started to attack the preacher verbally with filthy words for preaching against drunkenness, asking the preacher how the funeral should be celebrated, if not with drinks.
This disrupted the preaching which had the attention of most of the mourners, and two people, including myself went to drive the elderly man, whom we found to be drunk, away.
Acts of lack of self-control and other negative acts among elderly people who should set better examples for the youth to follow have given me cause to write this post.
I must ask again here, as I did rhetorically in my introductory post that, at what age does a man or woman no more need guidance or advice in life?
Normally advices about good behavior are given to teenagers and younger children who are growing up, so what advice do you give to a 55 or so year- old man or woman? Well, let me say this could simply be a call back to self- awareness.
We as human beings carry along with us as we grow older, certain imperfections and negative attitudes that we find difficult to shed off. Imperfections are abnormalities or deformities or shortcomings in character embodied with our nature and can’t be shed off easily but negative attitudes are acquired here on this earth and can be shed off and so needs to be shed off.
At a ripe age of 60 years, all negative attitudes and bad habits that control you, money spending habits that always leave you perpetually in debt, things that ruin your health, e.g. drinking, smoking and eating the wrong kinds of food, all other bad things you could not stop doing, I can’t mention all here, must all certainly be stopped or shed away to be able to live a healthier and stress-free life.
At 60 years you have reached the zenith of your life from where the gradient on your life graph begins a downward descent. This downward descent signifies a complete change in your lifestyle and you have to take note and live with extra care than in the preceding years of your life.
In my country the normal age for retirement is 60 years. In other countries it extends to 65. What retirement signifies is that you are old. That’s all. If you worked in any reputable institution your retirement letter might read something like this: ‘’ THANKS FOR YOUR SERVICES. YOU ARE OLD NOW. TAKE THIS PACK AND GO HOME. WISH YOU ALL THE BEST.’’ Sometimes you wished you had stayed a few more years but home you must go to begin a new life of rest.
In this new life you are not going to live in exactly the same way you used to live. Your own physical body may not permit you to live in exactly the same way. There are going to be physical changes to your body slowly and subtly; you may not have the same beautiful look, the same strength, the same smartness, not even the same mental alertness.
Now, let us look at some of the things you have to stop doing, at least by the time you reach 60 years. They are mostly negative things which you must let go. [This is not an exhaustive list but just some of the things which have come to mind to mention]
- Bitter Feelings
Are you somebody who can’t easily forgive others? Do you still harbor ill-feelings against perceived enemies and want to take revenge one day? Shed those bitter feelings and feel free. Revenge is for the Lord. Bitter feelings produce certain bad hormones which work against your good health.
If you have been cheating on your spouse all along and nobody has told you to stop, now is the time to stop by yourself. You can’t continue doing this till death do you part. If you don’t stop now when are you going to stop?
Now I don’t know what the world is coming up to. Now that adultery has been legalized in certain countries, one is free to fall in love with another’s spouse and this makes nonsense of my remarks. I wonder if I’ll make sense in this context but I believe the wise ones shall know how to tread cautiously.
Cheating also refers to taking more than your necessary or allotted share of something with another person or group. It is another form of injustice visited upon the poor by the rich, upon the powerless by the powerful, upon the younger by the older, upon employees by the employer and upon the weak by the strong. You must stop cheating.
You have been a dishonest and fraudulent person because you are in a position of authority. You must be wise enough at 60 to realize that it is a crime to be corrupt and need to purge yourself of it to gain the favor of God the rest of your life.
I don’t like to write much about corruption because it is an action which irritates and provokes me.
If you have a character of NOT having patience, sorry, this time you’ll have to learn to exercise patience at most times. It is a necessary attribute to have at this age because may be you don’t know, being impatient contributes a lot to raising your blood pressure.
- Staying out
Whilst staying out of home can be for a good purpose, most people stay out for negative practices such as binge drinking, gambling and some immoral acts which end up draining their pockets.
You must start staying at home if your staying out is not for a good cause. You may stay out together with your spouse. His/her presence may prevent you from frivolous spending.
- Eating out
Many people will not agree with me that eating outside the home is a bad thing, but remember, I am writing about a specific age group and have reasons.
At 60 your health and immune system may not be very robust as it used to be. Remember the gradient on your life graph is descending. If you are a sickler or even not, it is very important to pay attention to the kind of food you eat outside the home. The way you prepare your simple dish at home may not be the same way it is prepared at the restaurant or that nearby food joint. Be cautious about foods containing fat, sugar, salt and your coffee intake. Diabetics have to take extra caution.
You need to make changes in your dietary program to conform to changes in your physiological system. Consult a Dietician for directions, if necessary.
It is wise as you grow older to reduce the frequency of sexual intercourse because too much sex [for men] saps too much energy. Much has been said about the good side of sex for both men and women and that is not a reason to lose self -control over it. At 60 you might have already done what Napoleon could not do, and so it will be prudent at this stage to exercise self-control and apply it to your sex life.
In certain communities in my country where men practice polygamy, I have observed that the men die earlier than their wives, and this I have attributed to too much overtime work on the part of the men. So, a word to the wise……………….
This is a bit controversial issue but I shall draw the line to make clear when to and when not to lie.
As a matter of fact telling some lies can save you from certain dangerous situations or from disgrace and shame, but such instances rarely occur. When they occur and you find that telling a lie can save a situation, why not go ahead?
The kind of lies not worth telling is the one you tell to gain undeserved advantage over your neighbor. That’s really bad.
Telling lies is the preserve of smaller children who try to outwit elderly people with their smaller brain. Sometimes they win and sometimes too they are caught.
At this age it will not befit you to tell a lie to support an evil cause, to gain undeserved advantage or to hide a secret. Let the truth in God prevail through you at all times. Truth and honesty are virtues that go with your age at this time.
- Heartless talk
It will seem ridiculous to hear an elderly man [or woman] speaking ‘rubbish’ when it is expected that words of wisdom should come from his mouth in whatever circumstances he may be in.
Words which provoke negative emotions should not come out from an elderly person’s mouth. You may be a leader in your family, community or workplace and so exemplary character including good talk is what is expected of you at all times.
Your conversation is your advertisement about yourself. Every time you talk you let people look into what is on your mind. Give a good account of yourself.
- Stressful work
According to medical Doctors, stress leads to hypertension. Stressful work is any work that causes mental, physical or emotional strain. Examples are too much thinking, overworking or anxiety. That is why at 60 you are told to go home and rest.
But then more people work for themselves and do not know what retirement is. There are a lot more people whose business shall collapse when they literally retire. Other people’s business is what is known as ‘from hand to mouth’, that’s for survival only, no savings for retirement. They can’t afford to stay off work for a day or there shall be fasting in the house.
Sometimes the demands of life make one inevitably to go through stress but at the end of it is danger.
Living a stress-free life prolongs life and it is a life you must try to live. Healthy living includes emotional wellness and adequate rest.
- Sadduccious life
Sadduccious life is life without Christ [or a religion]. The word is my own coinage from the name ‘’Sadduccees’’ which was a Jewish group which did not believe in life after death and opposed Jesus.
If you are 60 years and have not Christ or any religion you have wasted all your precious life wandering in a wilderness without finding shelter. You have no hope, no salvation, nothing to boast about. You are like chaff blown about by the wind during threshing.
On what basis do you offer advice to the youth of your generation?
Your years are far spent, but knowing and accepting Christ as your savior may not be too late.
This is an all-female issue and so the men need to relax but read for self -information.
If you become a widow, you can re-marry at a later time. But if you are unable to re-marry before you turn 60, consider it to be over for you in marriage. There is a reason for this.
If there is anyone who doesn’t understand this let her contact me and I’ll explain this issue in detail.
Till then, adieu!
Published by: Ebenezer Awuah
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