THE IMPORTANCE OF LISTENING TO ADVICE AS YOU GROW OLDER
This week is the last one in 2016 and I want to draw your attention to the importance of listening to advice as you grow older. Some young people are recalcitrant and never heed to advice from elderly persons.
Advice comes from people who are usually older than you are or who are more experienced in life than you are. They have some knowledge or opinion about something which is quite relevant to you and which you either lack knowledge of, or have no experience about and therefore share their own with you.
You’ll end up being wiser than you were if you listened attentively. It is sometimes better to be friends with people who are older than you so you can learn something from them.
Our theme for this post is: Listening, to live.
If the title of the theme does not resonate with your expectations at this time of the year, don’t worry. Just pretend to skip through, and you may soon understand why you’ll have to embrace it even without even reading the whole post.
In the local communities in Ghana there is a proverb which translates that if you don’t have an advisor, you listen attentively when someone is advising his son.
PROCESS OF LISTENING
The process of listening involves a speaker and a listener or listeners. The speaker must be somebody knowledgeable or experienced in what he has to say and must have certain attributes which are not our concern here at the moment. Our focus is on the listeners and how they must listen attentively.
Knowing how to listen is an important communication tool which is indispensable at events like symposia, lectures, meetings, rallies, seminars, etc, etc. The following are essential requisites for listening attentively:
- All your attention must be directed at the person speaking whilst you remain unperturbed or undistracted.
- You must have an interest in the topic under discussion.
- You must hear and understand the words of the speaker. If he speaks in a language you do not understand, it makes nonsense of your listening.
- You must accept what you hear so it can also be transmitted into your sub-conscious mind. This will make it easier for you to remember at a later time what you heard.
- Then also you must apply what you hear to your daily life if it is something about practical issues. It is not prudent enough to hear it and shun it. For example you heard some days ago that fornication is no good for you. You heard it and still practice it?
You listen to advice in order to correct a mistake you are making or to give you guidance at a certain point in your life as you grow older. We all thrive on pieces of advice from friends and relatives when we fall into difficult situations or want guidance on moving our lives forward.
Even if an advice is not relevant to your needs presently you may hear it. It may be relevant to you tomorrow or you could advise a friend who needs it. It also adds to your knowledge and wisdom.
IGNORING ADVICE AND ITS CONSEQUENCES
As a young man or woman you may not be experienced enough to know all things even if you are a whizz kid. Even at the university, no one lecturer lectures in all disciplines. Each Lecturer has his or her specialty and may need guidance from someone in another field to have a problem solved. This applies to you also in life. To ignore advice is to tread on dangerous grounds. It is like moving along a dangerous road with your eyes closed.
Hear this true story. A young man travelled to visit his sick friend in a village in a rural area. On his arrival his friend became very happy and they conversed for a while, having missed each other over a period of time. Shortly thereafter, the guest friend asked for where he could get good quality local gin (akpeteshie) to drink. He was shown a place where a woman sold some good stuff. There were 2 paths leading to the woman’s house. The 1st path was shorter but snakes were common on it. The 2nd path was longer but safer.
The host asked his guest to use the longer route. The guest went to seek his favorite drink at the woman’s house using the longer route. When returning he used the shorter path to get back quickly. Nothing happened to him on the road but when he got back home the host friend reminded and warned him not to use the shorter path again. On the second day he went to drink again because according to him the stuff was too good, and the quality of the drink was not available in the city. He came back by the shorter path again and told his host that there was no danger on the road.
On the 3rd day he was to return to his base in the city but decided to go for the final showdown at the woman’s house. He did that and on his return he used the shorter path once again and when he was nearing the host’s house he was bitten by a snake. Bitten by a snake when he was coming to pick his bag and return to his base in the city? Just imagine what happened. Whatever you imagined was the result of the guest ignoring the advice of his host. A snake
I am not writing about disobedience. I am writing about ignoring advice that will save your life. Listen, and live. The guest friend did not listen to the advice of his host who knew more about the environment of his village and where danger laid.
Read a quotation from the Today’s English version which is the Good News Bible, which is very relevant to this topic or rather this topic relates to:
‘’Never rely on what you think you know. Remember the Lord in everything you do, and He will show you the right way. Never let yourself think that you are wiser than you are; simply obey the Lord and refuse to do wrong. If you do, it will be like good medicine, healing your wounds and easing your pains.’’—Proverbs 3:5-8.
May be the guest friend was playing God or God was acting through him and so the visitor should have heeded his advice and should not have relied on his own judgment or thoughts.
There is a way that seems perfect for a man to walk on, but at the end of that way is death. Inexperienced people die because they reject wisdom.
READING OR LISTENING
Thank you for following me up to this point. I hope you are not listening to me as we are not present physically but you are reading with interest from me to get the same message because you have clicked on this website to read this. It has the same effect as listening to me, using this medium and I thank you for your attention.
I hope you are going to keep listening to me because you’re going to get wiser reading from here always.
PLAY SAFE (LISTEN, AND LIVE)
‘’Listen to me, son. Take seriously what I am telling you, and you will live a long life.’’ Proverbs 4:10
You are a young man who is looking forward to marriage, but you follow a lot of women. What do you lose if your father tells you to restrain yourself from chasing a lot of women and choose only one, and you obey him?
Likewise, you are a young woman who is looking forward to get married. What do you lose if your mother tells you not to rush into seeking marriage but wait for a God-fearing man?
Your parents are wiser than you are. No child is wiser than his or her parents. God did not create such a condition. So, yours is to listen to advice. Sometimes when they give you the reason behind why they are giving you a certain advice you will reason with them, but they are not obliged to do so. It is their prerogative as parents. No parent wants a bad thing for his or her children. Women, especially have a natural instinct to give protective care for their children, whether they are babies or grownups.
Women have a natural instinct to give protective care for their babies
The Lord God Almighty whose name is Jehovah created man in his own image and consequently has a larger instinct for protecting people who listen to Him. But what does He say when you ignore his advice?
‘’People who listen when they are corrected will live, but those who will not admit that they are wrong are in danger.’’ –Proverbs 10:17
Knowledge is acquired through reading or listening and never let the opportunity be wasted whenever it comes to learn a new thing.
I wish everyone reading this post a Happy New Year with abundant blessings from God.