12 MORE EFFECTIVE WAYS TO KILL YOUR FEAR OF AGEING TO STAY YOUNG

People have an inherent fear for everything including animals, from ants to leopards, from lions to scorpions and from snakes to zebras.

                                                    A snake

These are physical creatures some of whose presence actually evoke fear in people. I, for instance don’t like going near snakes even when they are dead.

There are also abstract things which are just imaginations in the mind that also evoke fear in people. For example if you fear darkness because you think it will catch you that is your own imagination. Darkness can never catch you neither can it cause any harm to you.

There is a condition known as gerascophobia (which is already known to readers of this blog on my post titled HOW TO AVOID THE FEAR OF AGEING published on 21st February, 2017) which is an imagination in the mind that evokes fear of ageing or growing old in certain people.

Gerascophobia is the inherent fear of ageing and nothing more than that. www.fearof.net. If you fear to grow old you suffer from this psychological disorder. Do not worry if you are one because I bring you here 12 effective ways to conquer your fear and live forever if you wish. I have written these guidelines for you after extensive research and observation about lifestyles of the young and old alike, but this post  applies more to the older because their level of fear if higher.

One of my observations is that between men and women it is the latter who always want to look young. I am yet to find out the reason for this; whether it is the fear of aging or it is to please men or both or none of these. Men normally don’t care about their looks; they care much about how to make money for women to enjoy.

Closeup portrait of a woman applying dry cosmetic tonal foundation on the face using  makeup brush.

If you are an older person of 40 years and above and want to practice these hints, expect and enjoy the gossip about you since observers shall be concerned and worried about changes you are going to introduce into your lifestyle and start speaking behind you. Never mind anyone and never look back.

                                              Gossiping ?

Step Out of Your Age Group

Why hang around people of your age group when you want to avoid ageing and live young forever? Make more friends with younger people. Mix with the friends of your children and have some fun together. Learn some tricks they use to outsmart their parents and let your mind think and act like a youngster.

Do more daring things like riding a bicycle uphill, climbing a mountain and playing basketball but check your heartbeat every 5 minutes.

  1. Live a Clean Lifestyle

You have to live a clean and healthy life devoid of smoking and drinking because these things contribute greatly to the ageing process.

Your meals should be nutritious to keep you in good condition. If possible see a Dietitian for recommendations about your food intake. Certain foods are not good for your body and you unknowingly take them and they work against your good health, speeding your ageing process.

                                                                          Mosquito

If you live in the tropics where mosquitoes breed, do all you can to stay clear of those nasty insects because they can end your life abruptly if you constantly allow them near you. Living a clean lifestyle involves having clean compounds and surroundings where no dangerous insects or reptiles can hide to cause harm to you.

  1. Start Being More Fashionable

Want to look young? Watch out for the latest fashion designs in town and compete with the youth in trying them on. Watch carefully what they like to wear most but try not to ridicule yourself by trying to outsmart them. Remember you are an older person trying to hide away from your actual age so tread cautiously.

The skin of a young person is fresher and smoother than yours so take great care where dressing reveals much of the skin. You can ignore this if you care less about how your skin looks since your focus is on making people see how young an old person like you can look with fashionable dressing.

  1. Look Sexy

                                            Sexy young lady

Looking sexy is a great way to look young. If you’re a woman, remember that you advertise yourself to men to come for you.  Looking quite sexy from your fashionable clothes, you’ll soon get tired of turning down love proposals from men who see you the way you want them to see you and they may consider you to be a disrespectful harlot.

Men are fond of giving bad names to girls who refuse their advances. They deliberately refuse to see the angel you are and give you a name you can go to hell with. Ladies with resolute characters do not mind what names they are given by irresponsible men.

                                             A beautiful lady

No matter what their ages are women will always want to look young to make themselves attractive to men, but some will deny this. If not men, who do they worry themselves to please? Of course if they stop making themselves attractive the dating and the courting and the marriage all won’t be interesting games men will play. So please carry on.

  1. Revitalize Your Sex Life

No one looks so sexy without ending up having great sex to climax the whole show. Sex has a variety of styles and benefits to suit all ages and you have to try those you’ve never tried before, or may be retry those you tried when you were younger. It doesn’t always have to be in the bedroom in the missionary position. That is the normal, boring position most people are comfortable with.

Try something else to put adventure in your sex life.  Young people, sometimes afraid of being caught, hurriedly have sex in some obscure corner with their clothes on. Trying that provides some change and fun to your sex life. Here’s a secret: women enjoy sex more with men younger than themselves, and younger men can rock more that older men because their testosterone levels are higher.

So, to the women, dress younger, look younger, move with a younger lad to rock you young and feel younger. Don’t mind those gossipers. Visit www.sexzytools.com to see what advice they have for you.

  1. Get Some Weird Haircut

The normal thing for the youth nowadays is to be identified with some weird haircut. That’s what all the world’s football stars are teaching us and we will pick them up whether they look nice or not. The more weird yours is, the more recognized you are.

                          Modern Haircuts

Once the rich and famous in the game of football are doing it, they endorse it for our children to copy. Now if you’re a parent and your teenage son comes home one day with an unusual haircut and you dare ask him what haircut style he/she has brought home, he will go call his friends to help him laugh at you because you may still be living in the 19th Century.

Just go get one of those haircuts for yourself and you are among them, period!

  1. Finding Your Clan

Finding your clan means finding and meeting people with whom you share common interests, ideas or likes. Those who think and act like you do. In such a clan you always feel welcome, accepted, comfortable and happy.

                           Every one is comfortable and happy in the group

When you find someone supporting your ideas in an argument you feel quite satisfied with the person whether you know him or not. You find him to be a compatible friend and wish he could be with you always to support your ideas.

Getting someone who supports your thoughts and ideas makes life a little bit easy compared to someone who opposes and criticizes whatever you do. So to be happier in life you have to find and move with friends who think and act like you.

You know most students dislike their headmaster/headmistress? The reason being that the headmaster is always on the lookout to punish those whose behavior and actions are not in conformity with policies and regulations of the school, and this they won’t like him a bit for it because his strictness does not make him their clan member.

  1. Hang Around Late?

If you want to look younger you cannot retire to bed around 8pm. That is not in the character of the youth.

The lifestyle of the youth involves hanging around with friends and lovers deep into the night and sleeping very late. Subsequently they wake up late in the morning, defying calls by mothers to wake up and sweep the compound or wash plates.

May be it will be useless hanging around so late having nothing to do outside so a better option is to sleep early and wake up early to do some household chores. Unless of course your desire has yielded your expectation and you’ve got some young lad to caress you out there in the dark and hope to enjoy yourself passionately.

Otherwise hanging around late is a bad practice you can abandon and go to bed early, have your 8 hours sleep and wake up rather refreshed in the morning.

  1. Play Teenagers’ Games

There are games you play according to your age. This conforms to age appropriate behavior. Teenagers love to fly kites on the beaches or windy areas. It is very interesting to watch your kite fly high into the sky and disappear. This puts a smile on your face all day long because you have been successful.

Some teenagers like to ride bicycles and display riding skills. They can display all sorts of skillful gimmicks which are a delight to watch.

Which teenage games will be appropriate for you considering your concealed age vis-à-vis the rate of your heartbeat? Some games can take a toll on your breadth so watch out. Play soft games like emm, walking on a rope. Huh?

There is something surprising about games children play. You will find children play a particular game in say, Accra. Nobody has gone to say, Lagos or London to tell children there what games those in Accra play but you will invariably find those children playing the same game. Can somebody tell me why?

  1. Listen to the Latest Music

You can’t do without listening to the latest music in town and try to sing or hum it. Almost all the latest music now comes in the form of videos and most are accompanied by some kind of acrobatic dance. You have to pretend to be either the singer or the dancer or both.

The faster you know how to sing the song the more modern you are because you are in touch with the latest trends in town.

It is not only a matter of listening to the latest music but going out to attend musical concerts and live performances. Join the youngsters to dance when they do so. Dancing is a mild exercise which can help put you in shape.

  1. Start a New Business or Learn a New Skill

Start a business of your own and no one can force you to go on retirement. You know retirement comes along with resting and growing older so escape from it.

By managing your own business you’ll always be thinking of ideas to promote your company so you will be exercising your mind and body and people will be hearing about you so you will not fall into oblivion soon, like those retired.

      Be your own manager

Alternatively you can learn a new skill to keep you active in life. Your new skill will encourage you to develop some ideas which you can share with others, and the younger ones will like you for it.

  1. Offer Help to Others

Offer help to people when they need them and you will receive blessings from them which will make you live longer, not  older. You get a sense of good feeling or spiritual fulfillment from giving help to other people. It is God’s will for you to give help to other people as He has instructed us to carry one another’s burden.

Can you now answer my question at 9 in the comments section?

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 THINGS TO DO TO GROW OLDER

Wars, natural disasters, epidemic diseases and famine are unpredictable events that happen to wipe away a significant proportion of any nation’s population anytime they happen. And when such events happen they do not look at young or old persons. They sweep away any person on their path.  One of these disasters that occurred in Japan in 2011 pictured below was nicknamed Tsunami.

Some disasters sweep away, others bury, others swallow, others burn and others drown people. All get lost from the surface of the earth.

                                                  A Tsunami in action

The above are unpredictable things that can end a person’s life no matter what precautions they have taken to help them grow to an old age.

These are unforeseen acts of God and men that cannot be taken into account when planning because they rarely happen and are uncontrollable.

In the absence of the above and under normal conditions man can live longer if he takes great care of himself. Every one of us loves to grow old and it is the desire of most people not to die even when they are seriously sick.

Life is an important and a necessary commodity nobody wants to lose just like that. If God came down and promised to increase the number of years humans could live on this earth many would praise and thank Him. Whatever your age is at the time of reading this post you wish you could live up to the next 100 years.

Though God has pegged man’s surviving age at 70 years for the present generation according to the Bible and according to my own observation, many have lived beyond that age and you too can if you are able to do certain things.

                                                         A 70  year-old man

I have not yet heard of anybody who wanted to die just because he had reached the 70 years which God has allowed. The only exception I met recently was a young man of about 25 years who did not see the need to live up to 70 years if he had no money. Well he could be a potential suicide since they are all not yet wiped out.

The road to the 70th milestone is not very smooth and many have not been able to reach there and many will still not be able to reach there if they do not follow these suggestions.

In order to reach there and probably beyond I have some few suggestions for you to follow which will help you to grow older.

  1. Have Regular Medical Check-ups

Out of nowhere certain diseases can develop in your body without your knowledge. Some may not show any symptoms at all but will weaken you gradually. Seeing a Doctor once a year for a medical examination will help you to detect any abnormalities in your system and take precautionary measures. It can also help you to find other health problems before they start.

                                          A Doctor conducting medical check up

A lot of people know this but fail to see a Doctor for several reasons. First, there is no outward sign of any disease to necessitate going to see a Doctor, secondly they are too busy and thirdly they want to avoid paying the small fee the Doctor will take.

Seeing a Doctor at least once a year is not a bad idea to maintain a healthy life to help you grow older.

  1. Become Spiritually Inclined

By spiritual inclination I mean being aware of the existence of God and trying to live in harmony with nature. This means living physically in this world but living above what entails in it. What entails in this world include sexual immorality, hatred, vengeance, anger, envy, jealousy, selfish ambition, drunkenness, idol worship and witchcraft, among others.

These things defile a person who practices any of them and make him spiritually unclean and vulnerable to early death because evil goes to those who think and practice evil.

God in His own wisdom observed this and sent spiritual leaders to come and show men how to live the spiritual life. Talk of Jesus Christ, Mohammed and Buddha.

Some of the above spiritual leaders did not live long enough, to assert that their spirituality made them live to an old age. They were very special beings and had specific tasks to perform; they came to guide men, but not to live among them.

Society benefits from those who lead spiritual lives. If you are a spiritual person someone has to benefit from following your advice and footsteps by drawing nearer to God. You have a calling to lead people and to teach them the way of life. Cause them to gossip among themselves about your humility and simplicity. Let them pick you out from the rest.

Living the spiritual life also means you don’t strive for worldly things like a mansions, cars, fashionable and material possessions. Wanting such things often bring worry and confusion to the mind and leads to doing things which may not be in harmony with nature.

Many people who profess to be Christians and give the impression of living holy lives are actually not living anywhere near a spiritual life. Their level of spiritual awakening is very low, judging from their way of life which is fraught with the quest for material acquisition and wealth. This in turn has the tendency to breed dishonest and bad practices which do not promote spiritual uprightness.

When your mind is free of having evil thoughts about others you are free. When your mind is free of the thought of acquiring material things and lots of money you are free, and when you try to live like your spiritual leader you shed much of the troubles entailed in this material world. This allows you to live longer.

  1. Live in a Green Environment

I have already written a full article on this topic titled FOUND! SECRETS FOR GROWING OLDER published on this site on the 8th February, 2017. Please click and read. These suggestions shall not be complete without it.

  1. Fast Regularly

Eating nutritious food is good for your health, so also is abstinence from taking food for a while. A healthy lifestyle should not be eating, eating all the while but interlaced with short bouts of fasting to cleanse and detox the body.

Fasting has a lot of benefits for you including both physical and spiritual aspects.

I have also observed that the one thing which motivates people most to fast is their need for God to hear their long time prayers for granting some specific requests.

Most Christians don’t fast because they want to improve their spiritual life or become holy but they do so when they want money, marriage, a child, work, protection from enemies and from my corner a visa for travelling.

Well, the purpose of peoples fasting is not of much concern here but the relevant message is to bring you the benefits of fasting so you will start practicing it to live longer. I experienced some few benefits myself and have added what others also benefited as well.

Despite experiencing some initial pains in my stomach and a dry mouth at the end of the first day, I continued for 2 more days. At the end I felt very light and thought I could be blown away by any strong wind. But I felt good about it because I thought I had some superior power over everybody. I could think more clearly and had answers to some small personal problems. That was the first experience.

Fasting has a long and varied list of benefits a couple of which are having better resistance to diseases and the power to perceive things ordinary eyes and mind cannot.

Finally because of your ability to resist diseases you can live longer.

  1. Always Be Happy and Cheerful

’Be joyful always; pray continually and give thanks in all circumstances……..’’ – 1Thessalonians 5:16

                                                            Be cheerful always

You can be joyful if you have no malice towards your brother or friend. Sometimes when you think of a grudge existing between you and someone, you are not at peace, whether you were the cause or not. In that circumstance your mind cannot be free to make you a joyful person. You must get rid of the little, little negative things in your mind to set the mind free.

Getting rid of those negatives will send you to make peace with whoever has a grudge with you. My experience shows that people shy away from making peace this way because they think the other person will mock him when he takes the initiative.

Forget what the other person will say. Your level of understanding is probably higher than his. After making peace wait and see your happiness coming from within because you have no quarrels with no-one.

Anger or envy poisons the blood. You may not know this. Look at someone who is always angry and judge his disposition.  The poisoned blood causes his facial muscles to get tightly squeezed to deform his face and make it appear ugly and frightening. There is no cheerfulness in him. Neither does jealously promote happiness in any shape or form.

To be cheerful and smiling you send out positive vibrations from your body that infect anyone near you. Someone who is sad can look at you and momentarily smile back at you. If someone is laughing hilariously it is possible for people to laugh back before they ask the cause of the laughter.

It is happy people who laugh and laughter is a good medicine.

You may have the tendency to pity yourself when your expectations are not being fulfilled and time is moving fast for you. How can you be happy when this morning you probably woke up not knowing where your breakfast would come from since you cannot have it by yourself? Don’t worry over it because it is not the worry which will solve that problem for you.

In all circumstances be joyful. This is an advice from an Apostle of the Lord to men but because men’s level of understanding is limited this advice is ignored and men follow their own emotions to react to circumstances. When you react to circumstances your own way you misbehave and become violent at times and do things beyond the normal.

Happiness relieves tension and stress and makes you lively. It plays a big role in making you grow older as you always remain lively and healthy.

 

 

 

7 THINGS TO STOP DOING TO GROW OLDER

There are some things you cannot do to control your destiny but there are other things you can do to control your life in order to grow older. At the same time there are things you can stop doing to help you grow older. Growing older is not a phenomenon for only elderly persons but the youth as well.

Here’s a little lesson in Physiology to form a basis for our post for today.

The human body is made up of cells, organs and systems that keep the body active and functioning at all times.

Cells that make up the organs grow and wear out and replace themselves periodically but the organs remain the same organs. Cells have a limit to the number of years they can replace themselves and when they can no longer do so their organs become weak and subsequently cannot function well to maintain a healthy and vibrant system.

At this stage in your life you become a weak or sick person, and depending upon the significant number of years you have lived, you are classified as an old person.

The way you live your life has a direct bearing on the way you grow older. If you are involved in hard labor your cells wear faster than the one in soft labor, and subsequently affects your health status. This however does not mean that the one in soft labor is healthier and stronger.

Much of what you do as a human being has effect on your lifestyle, especially when you indulge yourself in pleasurable or sweet things it affects you negatively. You know how sweet sugar tastes but if you follow it you will harm yourself in the end by bringing upon yourself diseases like diabetes, obesity, heart-related diseases and tooth decay.

So, there are some things that you have to avoid doing in order not to expose your cells or organs to early destruction or weakness. For example, always exposing your body to intense heat like working in an oven or near a burning fire can gradually affect you negatively.

There are many drugs on the market (including fake ones) that are supposed to cure diseases, but some of these drugs have adverse  or negative effects and when you take them on your own they can leave you with a new disease that destroy your cells and organs.

Examine the following issues carefully to determine if you are involved in any of them, and if these writings make some sense to you, just stop doing them.

  1. Bad Eating Habits

                                                       A bad eating habit

I personally believe that bad eating habits do not promote good health and vitality. We are advised by those in the medical field not to drink water whilst eating because the water dilutes the enzymes that help in digestion and subsequently delays the digestion process.

Eating too much is not good enough, especially before bedtime as this is said to cause being prone to diabetic attack. In severe cases diabetes can kill.

Also having drinks instead of water. Some people choose to drink minerals or beer when they should drink water instead. Sugary drinks are usually high in calories and can also cause weight problems which hamper having a healthy life.

Water is an important necessity for the good functioning of your body and must be drunk at regular intervals and not only when you are thirsty.

 

                                                             Clean, bottled water

When having a meal concentrate on it and do nothing to distract your attention, for example reading a book, having serious conversation or watching telenovela. Such habits do not help you in maintaining good health.

  1. Eating the Wrong kinds of Food

This is one of the most serious problems that often lead to death. According to a renowned Pathologist at Ghana’s Korle Bu Teaching Hospital most deaths are caused by eating the wrong kinds of food. He therefore warns the public, and I re-echo it, to be very cautious about their choice of food.

Generally animal fat is not good for consumption and the Israelis were forbidden by God not to eat it. It can block the intestines, veins and arteries to cause serious health problems related to blood flow. God might have had the same or other reasons for forbidding it. You are not different from an Israeli in terms of eating wrong foods.

                                                                  Animal fat

As said earlier you may be diabetic but may not know it because it has not reached the disturbing stage. In this condition you should not consume sugar or sugary foods.

All kinds of food can be generally good but depending on your health status certain kinds of food will not be good for you. ‘’One man’s meat is another man’s poison’’ may apply here.  You should know your health status at all times.

You well know that salt gives food the desired taste and so the right amount is used always. However, a Medical Doctor can ban you from consuming even the smallest amount of salt for life depending on your health condition. If you are fortunate to be told this you become aware of your health status and can desist from taking salt to preserve your life. What will happen to you if you are in this condition and don’t know anything and continue consuming salt?

  1. Living a Sedentary Life

Living a sedentary lifestyle does not promote good health. If your work involves too much sitting you are advised to do much of exercise, at least some regular walking morning or evening.

If you are an older person who is weak and cannot do any strenuous job you need to walk around your house every morning even if with the aid of a walking stick. That will help you a little than always sitting at one place waiting to be served with your breakfast and then go back to sleep.

  1. Refusal to Have Regular Medical Check-ups

There are people who have specialized in studying human physiology to know how the body functions and provide antidotes in the event of something going wrong within or outside the body.

                                                              A Medical Doctor

As the body ages it gradually loses the ability to regenerate its cells and the ability to defend itself against diseases, and weakness takes over.  During such period you will need the services of these specialized people to assist you with the provision of medical care and advice to help you to continue living.

Life without regular check-ups by a Medical Doctor can end abruptly, and if you are young your family may attribute your sudden death to an imaginary witch, whilst with check-ups sudden deaths could be delayed or avoided altogether.

I know some adults who fear to see a Doctor just for the fear of a small needle.

  1. Having too Much Sex

Many people will not take this advice because it goes against what they love to do most. One thing I have already told you is that where there is too much pleasure and sweetness there also is death hiding nearby. Take it or leave it.

                                               Too much sex can weaken a man

I am not a Medical Doctor but I have observed many things in my 60 years of life to have an informed opinion about many issues including health. I know that too much sex on the part of men gradually weakens them that’s the reason women live longer than men.

Men exert much more energy during sexual intercourse than women do. That is why after a couple of rounds of vigorous sex you feel exhausted and have to sleep. And if you are either a young or elderly person and continue exhausting yourself regularly over long periods of time what will happen to you eventually? You’ll die leaving the women behind.

Craving for too much sex can push you to go after someone’s wife and commit adultery. Sadly this sin is considered normal in some communities in this world. When you go after someone’s wife you may one day get killed, period.

Growing older is a continuous process from birth so this piece of advice goes for all ages and not just for the old. Take special care if you are in your 30’s to grow older gracefully.

  1. Boozing

By boozing I refer to excessive drinking of alcohol (that is what it means of course). We all have fun with friends and brothers at times and take a little drink to spice the occasion. That in itself is nothing bad and I don’t like Pastors who preach strongly against all forms of drinking.

But what do you expect them to do when some people can drink to their death? Others drink and temporarily become paralyzed and that happens on a regular or periodic basis because they love to be called alcoholics.

alcohol addiction – drunk businessman holding a glass of whiskey on the table

Booze has been the cause of divorce in many homes but that is on a lighter side. It is a killer as well and has killed people too through serious hangovers in homes, through accidents on the streets and highways and through fighting where people get stabbed.

Booze has a very special way of exposing its victims. They usually have red mouth, puffy cheeks and swollen feet, with hands that always tremble. Their crave for the drink is always strong to enable them feel rather normal. Well, if you have the above symptoms know that you are at a dangerous point in your life. Is anyone of them reading this?

Why not stop boozing to live longer? There surely is a cure for this.

  1. Stress

In my post titled 12 THINGS TO STOP DOING AT 60 published on the 25th July, 2015, I mentioned that one of the things to stop doing at age 60 is stressful work.

Stressful work is that which takes much of your time and energy and leaves you very much exhausted at the time you close.

I read the story of a busy Secretary who always worked beyond normal working hours every day. She was paid very well by her employer but her problem was she never had time to enjoy her pay.

The topic is here again for you to read briefly about it.

                                                                    Stress

We all face stressful moments at one time or the other during our daily routines. When there is much work for you to do within a very short time you feel tensed up. When you have some pressing financial obligations to fulfill but have not the resources, you feel uneasy. Just thinking about something, some responsibility or obligation which you may not be able to discharge immediately can cause you some stress.

Thinking about issues like joblessness, lack of money, death of a family member, sickness, relationship and other issues can deepen your restlessness. There are a lot more causes and is a comprehensive topic quite beyond the scope of this post to get the wider picture. Readers are therefore advised to go online to read more about stress and how to cope with it.

In the meantime the one thing to remember before you go is that too much thinking can cause you temporary madness and so do as much as you can not to think too much about your problems and difficulties. It is dangerous to cross a major road when you are thinking too much.

In order to live longer you must de-stress yourself and try to have some peace of mind to live your life.

CONCLUSION

The above is not a comprehensible list of all the negative things you have to stop doing to grow older. There are more negative things to stop doing. Just take a little time to check yourself out to find out if you are doing certain things which are not good for your health. Then advise yourself.

Whilst this post looked at things to stop doing, the next post shall look at things you must do to help you grow older.